| | As I become more involved with people in various ways, I realize more about myself. If anything, knowing yourself and how you interact is probably one of the best things that can help you to be a less selfish and more considerate person. As important it is to know someone else, knowing yourself, your faults, tendencies, abilities, mannerisms, defense mechanisms, etc sheds light on how to accommodate and have grace with others. At least for me thus far.
There's this publication about different love languages, or how people express or receive love from others. While no set formula or finding a match to people's differing communication methods should be followed exclusively, being aware of how people express themselves and graciously receive is something to keep in mind. As much as I appreciate when people love on me in their various ways, knowing that they are loving me in this particular way of theirs...sometimes it feels selfish - on their part and on mine. Questions of why can't they love me the way I want to be loved sometimes? Why do I keep feeling bulldozed over? Am I ungrateful for this time and effort they are putting in? Am I being rigid and too particular? Am I being selfish in the way that I want to be treated? In the grand scheme of things, is this so important to have a particular way that I would like? Should I just let this go? <- notice all the "I's"?
Perhaps I am too rigid...but this is how I am...shouldn't I be honored or at least be recognized for who I am? As well as realizing this for the other person. Not a "give and take," but a conversation, discussion...a sharing in how we love each other.
life's hard, and i feel like i'm failing a lot of the times, but God is good and I got to trust in that. |
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